March 10th 2020
What conditions do we put on both our own life and that of others? In putting a condition on another’s behaviour towards us, are we in fact setting ourselves up for a fall? For example, if I make it a condition that my life can only be of any quality whilst another person makes me feel significant, then what will happen when that other person is no longer there? Or, if I only feel safe when I am in the company of my mother, for example, how will that affect my feelings of security when she passes on?
We do have the resource within us to stand alone securely, significantly and with a sense of self worth but many of us, are struggling with these core conditions. There is a sense these days that there are more and more issues of mental health at large and as we struggle to make sense of our world, I do believe a confusion exists between what dependency is and what it isn’t. Yes, we do depend on one another for medicine, food, shelter etc, etc but we cannot get our internal needs met by another person. Talking, however, to another about our deepest needs can help with our understanding of what is happening in our lives or provide the tools to take steps to do things differently, if need be. Talk Time Therapies are here to help. Please do get in touch.